Emotions

This time last year MJ was alive and fighting for his life. He was having an okay day and they were planning on weaning him for the oscillator, or 'jet vent'. This type of ventilator would shake his entire body as it pumped 400 breaths of oxygen in him each minute. I will never forget the sound of that machine or the way his body shook so hard. It was this evening one year ago that MJ started to turn for the worse. He was KU Medical Center and the doctors weren't sure if he would make it through the night. I remember posting on facebook for prayers and thinking I was being dramatic because there was no way that MJ would not live. The next morning the doctors came in and told us that he needed to be transferred to Children's Mercy Hospital so he would be able to go on ECMO if he needed to.

Today I am angry. I am angry that I have not been able to watch MJ grow up for the past year. I am angry that I was not able to celebrate his first birthday with him. I am so, so sad. I don't know how I am going to endure the next 34 days. It's a crazy feeling and an indescribable thought, knowing that one year ago my son was alive and fighting for his life, and this year today I have to look back and know what was ahead.

I am grumpy and irritable, and I sure as hell don't want to be at work. But this is the busiest time of the year for us (I am in college recruitment) and so I have to endure. I have to live and I have to move on. I don't want to and sometimes I don't know how I am going to.

I don't have a picture of MJ from when he was two days old. When he took a turn for the worse, he was moved into an isolation room in hopes that the noise and lights from the other babies around him would help, so the room was always as dark as it could be and we could only whisper when we were with him. I wish I would have snuck one anyway, I wish that I had a picture of him from each and every day that he was alive.